Video: Accept Thy Self

Dr. Rob shares words on acceptance, of yourself as well as others.

Friends and the gift they give us

Good friends enrich our lives in so many ways. Through a magical combination of similarities and differences, friends offer us the opportunity to know ourselves as we are and help us grow into who we want to be. Our similarities attract us to each other, comforting us with familiarity when we see ourselves in them. When we are drawn to those we admire, the same recognition is at work, unconsciously acknowledging that these people possess qualities that we ourselves possess. By acting as mirrors, friends help us define who we are by reflecting our selves back to us.

Friends also help us know ourselves through our differences. Differences allow us to see other options and make choices about who we want to be. Sometimes we are drawn to those who appear to be our opposites, and we learn to accept the parts of them we love and the parts of them that don’t resonate with us, thus allowing us a valuable learning experience. By expanding our understanding to include others’ experiences, Read more

Returning Unconditional Love

I was thinking the other day, I had been very short tempered with my lovely partner, who didn’t deserve it, just because I was stressed about something at work.

I stomped about the house and eventually flounced out saying I was going to the library, without a backward glance or asking if there was anything I could pick up for my loved one. I suddenly realised that I had spent all day with virtual strangers (I am a Work Based Tutor and visit different companies daily ) to whom I had been polite, courteous, ’smiley’ and generally a jovial person. I did not mention my work worries and nobody guessed I was feeling particularly stressed and unhappy  but, I managed to hurt the one person who deserved it least, the person who would have given me a hug and let me have a moan. Read more

Special needs children can be great teachers of acceptance

“I seldom think about my limitations, and they never make me sad. Perhaps there is just a touch of yearning at times; but it is vague, like a breeze among flowers.” -Helen Keller

A slower walk, an attention span that has a lower tolerance to diverse situations or a facial structure that is a little more square than round, can label a child “different” due to attributes that go against the mainstream of the population. However, if you look beyond qualities that make an individual appear dissimilar, you will see that all children share commonality; a human heart with an inbred capacity to give and receive love. A young girl named Melissa, who has Down Syndrome, helped teach me the lesson of “don’t judge a book by its cover”. Read more

Letting yourself be seen

When we allow ourselves to be witnessed by another, we cannot help but be transformed by the experience. Whether we are sharing a personal experience, standing in front of friends to celebrate a special occasion, or Read more

The key to a joyful life

Researchers have been studying meditative practices of Buddhist monks for years because of their ability to be present in the moment and achieve a state of contentment. Read more

Making life (as it is) work for you

Sometimes we have so many varying responsibilities in our lives, ranging from work obligations to caring for children to running a household, we feel we cannot possibly make it all work. Read more

A Bridge To Acceptance

Dealing With disappointment; Whenever we do something in life with an expectation of how we’d like it to turn out, Read more